100 Things You Need to Know About Me (21-30)

21-30 :: Being a Pastor

21. I never intended on being a pastor.
22. If I weren't a pastor, I would be a high school math teacher.
23. I get annoyed when I meet new people who find out I am a pastor and then change their behavior, language, conversation, etc. I want people to feel like they can be themselves around me.
24. I am sometimes not myself around church people. (Yes...I am aware of the irony/conflict between #23 and #24!)
25. There are a lot of Christians that I wish would never tell people they are Christians.
26. I think people are too dependent upon the church to "feed" them. The church needs to teach people how to feed themselves.
27. I wish we didn't have to refer to the Old Testament as "old"; it makes people think it is irrelevant. How about Part 1 and Part 2 instead?
28. Being a pastor is oftentimes lonely. This is why I highly value my relationships with other pastors.
29. I don't like doing weddings, funerals, and hospital calls. I know they are a part of the job; I simply don't feel like I know what to say or do.
30. I wish more Christians would tell people what God is for rather than what He is against.

The Blend - new website!

The Blend - my favorite local coffeeshop - has recently updated their website. Check it out here...be sure to look at the pictures.

Can't you just picture me settled into one of the booths with my laptop, Bible, and journal as I prepare an upcoming message? (I've also done quite a bit of blogging from these booths!)

Pumpkin Spice Latte

I was at The Blend this morning working on my sermon for this coming Sunday. While I was there, I ordered today's special - Pumpkin Spice Latte.

Imagine my surprise when I'm reading the blogs I track, and I find that Perry Noble, Pastor of NewSpring Church, recently shared some interesting perspectives on evangelism as a result of having this very drink at a Starbucks in Atlanta's airport. Check it out here...

100 Things You Need to Know About Me (11-20)

Continuing in a blogging tradition, here's the next grouping of 10 things you need to know...

11-20 :: Movies

11. I cry almost every time I watch the hospital scene in Remember the Titans.
12. One of the greatest lines in a movie is said by Kurt Russell in Tombstone after slapping Billy Bob Thornton - "You gonna do something or just stand there and bleed?"
13. I absolutely hate Hope Floats and Mrs. Doubtfire.
14. I can quote too many lines from Monty Python and the Holy Grail. The ones I most often say are, "T'is but a scratch" and "I got better."
15. I think everybody should watch The Princess Bride at least once...okay, a dozen times!
16. I will watch any movie that stars Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson or Vin Diesel.
17. Make fun of me if you will...but any time The Princess Diaries is on, I stop to watch.
18. I saw the first showing of Transformers on opening night with a bunch of friends. The energy and enthusiasm of the crowd had everyone shouting and clapping out loud. It was awesome! We almost stayed to watch the next showing.
19. I didn't want any of the Lord of the Rings movies to end. I loved Tolkien as a kid, and I could not wait for each movie to come out.
20. I secretly wish I was Neo.

100 Things You Need to Know About Me (1-10)

I read on African Banter that a blogging tradition is that you have to write 100 things about yourself once you've made 100 posts. Since I am at a new church, this will be a great way to introduce the people of Great Oaks to some things they don't yet know about me.

Rather than listing out 100 things in one post, I thought I would post in short bursts of 10 (each with a theme). Here we go...

1-10 :: Historical

1. When I got married, I was 6'4" and weighed 215 pounds. I'm now 6'4" and weigh 275 pounds. (It's all muscle...)
2. I played flute from 4th grade through 8th grade.
3. I played the piccolo my 8th grade year.
4. I played on the girl's volleyball team my 6th grade year. (Sixth grade was a rough year...)
5. The house I grew up in was heated solely by a wood-burning stove. I'm really good at splitting wood!
6. The house I grew up in wasn't on a well or city water. We hauled water 2-3 times a week from town to fill a cistern.
7. I once went frog gigging with a 12-guage shotgun. There wasn't much left...
8. When I was in college, I climbed a TV tower at 3:00am with three other friends. Those red lights are really bright up close!
9. I used to pretend the be asleep in the car when we would get home from long car trips. I loved it when my Dad would carry me into the house.
10. My little sister used to be really afraid of the "monster under the bed". Right after she got over her fear, I hid under her bed and grabbed her leg when she came to bed. I got grounded for two weeks, but it was worth it!

Weekend in Review :: 11-04-07

WORSHIP
Jesus Paid It All - Kristian Stanfall
We Fall Down - Chris Tomlin
I Give You My Heart - Delirious
You Are Holy (Prince of Peace) - Michael W. Smith

MESSAGE
Series: What's In Your Wallet?
Message: Living Within Your Means - Part 1 (Debt)
Speaker: Bill White

Notable Quotes...
"It's not about knowledge; it's about application of knowledge."
"Even if you pay off your credit card at the end of each month, you will still spend about 23% more than if you just used cash."
"God is more concerned with your character than your comfort."
"Debt is a cancer."

ANNOUNCEMENTS

• Operation Christmas Child - shoe boxes due November 11th
• Celebration Sunday - November 18th - to be baptized, contact the church office at 383-4330
• Christmas Series - Second Chance Christmas - invitation postcards available soon
  

Raking Leaves

I took Ethan to a follow-up doctor's appointment in Geneva this afternoon to make sure there weren't any lingering effects from the croup last week. He checked out just fine and was extremely glad when the doctor said he couldn't get a flu shot today because he just finished a round of scripted steroids.

After the doctor's appointment, Ethan and I went over to Karen's parents for a visit. The four of us ended up in the backyard raking leaves into a huge pile for Ethan to jump into. It was a great afternoon of relaxation and connection with my in-laws and my son. (I would post a picture, but I haven't figured out how to get them off of my cell phone!)

I love the Fall because of moments just like these. And, yes...I jumped in the leaves too!

Going All the Way

As many of you know, I love to network with and track other Christian leaders from around the country. You also know that I love to read. So when I came across a recent post from Craig Groeschel, Senior Pastor of Lifechurch.tv, offering a free copy of his recent book for people who blog about it, I couldn't resist!

The book is called Going All the Way: Preparing for a Marriage That Goes the Distance. I've read that some pastors are utilizing the book as their foundation for pre-marital counseling while others are using it for material during teaching series on marriage. I honestly don't know much more about the book than what I've read on other blogs, so I will let you know my thoughts after I receive my copy.

I have been learning from Craig for some time now, and I have been inspired and challenged by his teachings and writings. I've got two other books written by him, Chazown and Confessions of a Pastor. The first time I heard him speak was his presentation on the multi-site movement during the 2006 A2 Conference. I can honestly point to this talk as the turning point for me with regards to the multi-site movement. I also recently listened to his talks about "exponential innovation" and "practical atheism" from the 2007 Buzz Conference. Great talks that I highly recommend checking out.

Enough for now...I'll let you know if I get a free copy of the book...they only had 40 left...

Trick or Treat

Karen was talking with Morgan, my soon-to-be 3-year old, about trick-or-treating later tonight. To make sure she understood the "process" Karen asked, "What do you say when you ring the doorbell?"

Morgan quickly replied, "Ding Dong!"

Flight of the Wild Duck

Here's a great Chinese proverb on the importance of leading by example. I found it in a comment on lifechurch.tv's blog...

“Not the cry, but the flight of the wild duck, leads the flock to fly and follow.” - Chinese proverb

My Kids Are Sick!

So last week Ethan was in the hospital overnight with croup. This week Morgan is diagnosed with strep throat. Pray for the Genders' household!!!

I can't wait to say the famous movie line, "This house is clean." (Although I know it won't sound nearly as creepy as Zelda Rubinstein made it sound!)

Small Group Leader's Meeting

A big thanks goes out to all of you who were able to attend the leader's meeting yesterday. Personally, I think our first meeting went very well. There is a lot more we need to discuss, but I didn't want to overload my leaders with too much information at once. If you attended the meeting yesterday, post a comment below to let me know one or two take-aways from our conversations.

For those of you that weren't able to make it, here is a summary of what we discussed...

TEAM-BUILDING
We utilized our Jimmy John's boxed-lunches to build devices that would hold a raw egg and keep it from being broken when dropped from the balcony in the auditorium. The take-away was that we are to create small group environments where people are cared for and protected as they grow in their faith and knowledge.

WITH or OF...
I shared that we need to become a church OF small groups rather than a church WITH small groups. In the latter, small groups are simply one of many options for people to get involved in. In the former, small groups become the foundation for spiritual growth and connection within the church. The goal of the church is to move people from our weekend worship services (foyer) to medium-sized gatherings such as MarriedLife Live and Starting Point (living room) and eventually to small groups (kitchen).

However, small groups are not the end. They are simply a means to the desired end which is helping people become fully-devoted followers of Jesus Christ. This is critical to understand because we don't want our success to be defined by the number of people in small groups. We want our success to be defined by how much people are growing and how healthy the church is becoming because of doing life together in small groups. (Read Acts 2:42-47)

DUAL OBJECTIVES
We reviewed the two primary objectives of small groups - spiritual growth and authentic community. As leaders, we need to establish groups where people experience a high level of discipleship and caring. If we lean too far one direction or the other, we miss the mark. (Read Ephesians 4:1-6, 11-16)

PURPOSE DRIVEN
Another important part of our structure for small groups at Great Oaks is to balance the five purposes within the context of small group life. We discussed the idea of identifying individuals within each group who would champion one of the purposes. We also highlighted the fact that you will not experience all five purposes in a single gathering, but they should all be evident and balanced over the life-span of the group. (Read Matthew 22:37-40; 28:19-20)

Weekend in Review :: 10-28-07

WORSHIP
Because of Your Love - Paul Baloche
You're Worthy of My Praise - Charlie Hall
You Are My King - Passion Band (Bethany rocked on this song!)
Everlasting God - Todd Fields

MESSAGE
Series: What's In Your Wallet?
Message: Are You Trustworthy?
Key Scripture: Luke 16:1-13 (Parable of the Shrewd Manager)
Speaker: Bill White

ANNOUNCEMENTS

• Community Service Project - Raking leaves at Metamora Town Square. Date TBA...
  
• Operation Christmas Child - fill a shoe box with gifts for a needy child in another country. Boxes are due November 11th.
• Baptisms will be held on Sunday, November 18th - register for Baptism class by contacting Stacey Anderson at 383-4330 or stacey@greatoakscc.org

Deadly Viper Character Assassins

Deadly Viper Character Assassins gives leaders a no-holds barred look at the topics of character and integrity. Jud Wilhite (Central Christian Church) and Mike Foster (co-founder of XXXchurch.com and the Creative Principal at PlainJoe Studios) unite to share their personal insights and experiences with some of the top character assassins that leaders will encounter...

• The Assassin of Character Creep
• The Assassin of Zi Qi Qi Ren (self-deception)
  
• The Assassin of Amped Emotions
• The Assassin of the Headless Sprinting Chicken (busy-ness)
  
• The Assassin of Boom Chicka Wa Wa (sexual temptation)
  
• The Bling Bling Assassin
• The High and Mighty Assassin (ego/pride)
  

I got this book in a gift bag given to all of the pastors who attended Central Uncensored. I had just recently heard about it through another blog, so I was jacked to see it in the bag. I ended up reading the whole book in a matter of hours during my time in Vegas. It is a must-read for all leaders as it makes you re-examine your life to discover if these character assassins are lurking in the shadows. I can't wait to get it in the hands of the staff at Great Oaks!

Find out more at deadlyviper.org...

Ethan in the ER

While I was at Loren & Deanna's last night, I got two voicemails from Karen letting me know that she was going to be taking Ethan to the emergency room because he couldn't breathe. When I called her back, she had E in the bathroom with the shower running so that the steam could help him breathe better.

At the hospital, the doctors had Ethan do two hour-long breathing treatments, gave him some sort of steroid (he's buff now!), took a chest x-ray, and did some blood work. The doctor came back to let Karen know that E had pneumonia. About fifteen minutes after she called to tell me this, the doctor returned to the room to let them know he had read the wrong x-ray!

It ended up that Ethan had the croup, but it was serious enough to keep him overnight for observation. They sent him home this morning with instructions to take it easy for three days, eat lots of ice cream, and try not to talk. I'm not sure how the not-talking thing is going to work...he is my son after all!

Obviously I felt frustrated being so far away from home and not being able to help Karen and comfort Ethan. I think I was more worried than she was during the whole incident. I've said it before, but I'll say it again...my wife is an awesome woman!

I can't wait to get home tonight to give her a break from taking care of the kids. She definitely needs and deserves it...

Vegas Reflections No. 3

Loren & I headed out to Zion National Park yesterday for a day of hiking and mentoring. There isn't anything better than some road-time and trail-time with a mentor and friend to draw out the conversation. And there isn't anything better than being in God's creation to draw out the inspiration and majesty of the Creator. If you have never been to Zion, I highly recommend it. I am planning on coming back some time to hike Angel's Landing Trail and The Narrows.

I met Chris Trethewey for lunch today to catch up and talk leadership. As always, it proved to be a great conversation. The more time I spend with Chris, the more I am impressed with his leadership knowledge and application. He and I have similar personalities and perspectives; we just have different contexts in which to practice our leadership. We usually end up bouncing ideas off of each other and gaining the other's insights into current dynamics and situations.

We talked at length about Central: Uncensored to discover what worked well and what needed to be adjusted for the future. Following this debriefing time, we talked about numerous other leadership issues. Here are some personal take-aways from that conversation...

• Alignment of staff is critical but difficult since most staff members come from churches where their ministries were "islands". They were not required or rewarded for collaborating across ministry areas.
• Always discover the irreducible minimum.
• Disney can reach a multi-generational audience with a single movie. How can the church use this strategy to communicate/teach to a diverse audience?
• If a leader does not possess discernment (about people, future, direction, etc), he is not a leader.
• A process of change is needed, but don't be afraid to toss a grenade every now and then to get things moving.
• Seek to understand all of the dynamics about a situation before passing judgment or jumping to conclusions.

Following my lunch with Chris, I met with Kyle Costello, Small Groups Pastor of Young Couples. This conversation proved to be intensely practical and strategic for leading small group leaders. Kyle joined the staff of Central about two and a half years ago after working as a financial analyst for Ford Motor Company. He will prove to be a great contact for the future. Here are some take-aways from my conversation with him...

• Utilize strong small group leaders as mentors for other leaders. This will spread your span-of-care and allow you to better utilize your time and energy.
• Try to establish inter-group conversation and encouragement among small group leaders.
  
• Whole-church campaigns provide strong growth and involvement in small groups; however, you can expect some natural attrition once the campaign is done. In the long run, though, campaigns are great for small group expansion.
• Be sure to provide multiple levels of training for hosts during a campaign. Don't rely on a single large-group training to adequately prepare hosts for campaign experience.
• Be sure to have post-campaign strategy for new groups to reinforce the purpose of the small group.
• Pay attention to the next-steps...have material available at all times (including on your person during weekend services) that directs people to their next step to getting involved in a small group.
• Living Room Events - Dinner & a Movie; Night at the Ballpark; Sacred Space (encouraging groups to adopt a specific area of the community and make it better through service projects)
• Leadership influence flows downhill.

I really appreciated all of the insights from Loren, Chris, and Kyle. I am looking forward to connecting with them more in the future.

Vegas Reflections No. 2

Today was spent talking exclusively about small groups. We had a great round-table discussion with small group pastors from Nevada, California, Colorado & Texas. Don't worry, I did Illinois proud!

The group was small - just 8 of us - so the conversation was deep and intimate as we talked with Jon Bodin (Executive Director of Ministry Development for Central) about the joys and struggles of small group ministry. Following the round-table, I had the privilege of taking Jon out for lunch for some one-on-one conversation. This proved extremely beneficial as it gave us extended time to talk specifically about Great Oaks.

After lunch I sat in the Small Groups office and connected with three other small groups pastors for about 30 minutes. On Wednesday, I will be connecting with Chris Trethewey, Executive Director of Family Ministries, and Kyle Costello, Small Groups Pastor for Young Couples. I am really looking forward to these two conversations. Chris has always proven to be a great counterpart in leadership discussions, and Kyle is a new networking contact for me.

Here are some thoughts from today...

• My family is my first small group.
  
• Small groups are a means to an end. The end is growing people to full devotion to Christ (i.e. discipleship).
• Open small groups that bring in new people will naturally birth new groups.
• Allow groups to grow to whatever capacity the leader's/host's house can hold. The key is subgrouping - no matter how large the group, subgroup to 4-5 individuals for in-depth conversations.
• Subgrouping will identify potential leaders for the future.
  
• Small groups are messy.
  

Vegas Reflections No. 1

My time in Vegas has been both relaxing and informational. Saturday was spent with my mentor and his family watching their granddaughter's soccer game, eating Mexican for dinner at the District in Henderson, NV, and having Dairy Queen for dessert. Loren and I finished the night watching Illinois lose to Michigan.

The conference began this morning with a tour of Central Christian Church. We were able to get an overview of the various ministry environments and talk with key leaders and volunteers in each area. Having been here once before, I had seen many of the areas, but there were some new things I got to see. We even got to be backstage while Jud Wilhite (Lead Pastor) was speaking on stage. (I thought about peeking my head out from behind the curtain...)

We attended the last service of the morning (they have two services on Saturday evening & three on Sunday morning at the Henderson campus and three services on Sunday morning at the Summerlin campus) where they were launching a new series called sex: the naked truth. It was one of the best sermons I have ever heard on sex...and it was in Vegas! Check out the video here; if you would prefer the podcast, you can find it through the same link.

After the worship service, we gathered together with a number of key staff members for lunch and a couple more presentations. Jud did a presentation on creating a culture of uncensored grace, and Mike Bodine (Executive Pastor) did a presentation on key strategies and structure.

Key Thoughts...

• For too long, churches have required people to Behave then Believe and only then can they Belong. We must create churches where people can Belong first then come to Believe and then Become what God intends them to be.
• Truth follows Trust
• The stories you tell create your culture.
• Process not programs
• We believe God has called us to facilitate a movement!
• Expectations without application leads to frustration; however, expectations with application leads to celebration.
• We must constantly think like a new church.
• More is not better...best is better.

I'm spending all day tomorrow with the Small Groups pastors, so I'll have some small group-specific thoughts to share later. That's it for tonight...time for eating more ice cream and watching more football!

Small Group Wins

I thought I would share some success stories (Wins) with you from some recent small group gatherings at GOCC. I have asked my small group leaders to submit a Win Sheet after each gathering. It will take some time to fully catch on, but it will become a valuable tool in monitoring the progress of our groups.

Win #1: I received a phone call a couple of weeks ago from a woman whose husband was concerned about getting involved in a small group. As a local business owner, he was apprehensive about opening his life to other people. Last week they decided to take the plunge and join a group, and they are now hosting the group each week at their house.

Win #2: At the first gathering of a Mommy & Me small group, young mothers were relieved to learn that they are not alone in their struggles with parenting pre-schoolers.

Win #3: A young couple are going through some rough times in their marriage. Their small group is coming alongside and encouraging them as they work through some tough issues.

Did you notice the theme? It is all about connecting with other individuals to help each other grow spiritually and relationally. We cannot do this Christian life on our own...we need others to walk alongside of us. This is why small groups are so important.

Life is better lived together.

YouVersion

Interested in a new on-line Bible study tool? Check out www.youversion.com.

It isn't fully-functional yet, but it looks like it will be a useful tool even as it gets developed. At this time, it allows you to search multiple versions (although not the NIV or TNIV), maintain a private journal, and collaborate with other people around the world on specific verses through text, image, and video posts.

Check it out for yourself, and let me know what you think.